Is the Universe Really Abundant?

What Does Success Mean to You?

Hold that image in your mind for a moment and ask yourself a couple of questions:

  • Is this a picture of something I want now, or does it represent something negative that I don’t want any longer? (eg. I want to be health vs. I don’t want to be sick)
  • Does it represent something I truly want myself, or something I believe I should want? (eg. A particular career, family situation, lifestyle…)

You need to be clear about your vision of what success means and to form that picture in vividly positive terms before you can expect the Law of Attraction to work for you. I suspect that the reason why so many people think it doesn’t work is primarily because they don’t actually know what they want. The second reason is that they don’t act in accordance with their desire.

The Law of Attraction

The universe is an abundant place. If you open up to the universe, it will give you what you need and want. First, you have to visualise what you need and want in your mind so that the picture is very clear. Your mind is like a magnet that will give you what you focus on which is why so many people seem to attract the things they don’t want… they think about negative  things so much that there is no room for success.

Everything is made up of energy, including your thoughts. Your unconscious mind is negatively charged. It will attract people, events and situations in the direction of your dominant thoughts, so you need a positive picture of what you want.

When you harness these two principles you will attract the things you really want into your life. Many of my clients come to me and say, “The Law of Attraction doesn’t work for me.” However, when we dig a bit deeper it turns out that they have been visualising the things they don’t want: “I don’t want to be poor.” “I don’t want to be fat.” “I don’t want to be sick.” etc. Once we turn those ‘away from’ goals into positive goals… and create an action plan, their outcomes are transformed.

Your Action Plan

You knew that was coming, didn’t you? Visualisation without action is just imagination. You can’t create until you do something.

What do you need to do, to move towards your vision of success? If you start with small steps, you’ll find it easier to create the momentum that will propel you forward to your goal.

Somehow, when I talk to people this is where they always get stuck, so here’s a quick exercise to help you:

What would need to happen for you to feel truly successful?

Do you have a picture?

Focus on this picture and ask yourself: “If I had this would feel abundantly successful and happy?” If not, what more would it take?

Tweak and refine this picture until you feel that you couldn’t make it any clearer, better, or more evocative, then set a reminder in your phone to prompt you to visualise it at least twice each day.

 

NOW…

What are three mini-steps that will create momentum.

#1 should be completed by end of this weekend

#2 should be completed during the following week

#3 should be completed by the end of the following weekend

#4… by now you should have created some momentum and set up the next few steps. Keep them in proportion so they don’t take weeks or months to complete.

“Momentum is the driving force behind achievement.”

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Sometimes you’ve been so focused on what you don’t want for so long, that you need help to refocus and create a positive vision of success. A H.O.W.T.O. Session help you do this, and much more. If you can invest 90 minutes and a small fee, I can work with you to transform your outcomes and set you on the path to the success that you deserve.

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The cause is always greater than the effect. So you either have results or you have reasons why you don’t have the results.  These days it’s a whole lot more common to make excuses for failure, than it is to hear people talking about the great results they have.

You’ll hear people (on the reason side of the equation) saying, “Oh, you know, I can’t do this because my partner won’t let me.”  “I can never be that because I can’t afford it.”   “I’m not smart enough.”  “I’m not rich enough.”  “I’m not good enough.”  “I didn’t go to the right school.”  “My VCE results weren’t high enough.” … Whatever it is – these people are usually pointing fingers and creating blame – “It’s your fault that I didn’t do it, it’s all because of you, you don’t pay me enough, …you don’t do enough, … you don’t teach me,  …you can’t show me.” Then they complain how tough it is when things don’t turn out the way they wanted them to.

The problem with this kind of thinking is that you start to believe the stories you tell yourself about life.  If you keep providing yourself (or others) with reasons why you couldn’t achieve your goals, complete your tasks, or whatever the problem is, your unconscious mind starts to believe it and you fulfill your own predictions.

The other side of the coin is the people who take responsibility for the things that happen in their life.  You might hear these people say, “Even though my partner isn’t keen on me doing this I have shown him how important it is to me and he has agreed.” or “I’m smart enough to figure out how to get what I want if I work hard.”  Or even, My VCE results weren’t high enough to get straight into the course I wanted so I found another way to prove my ability and get accepted.”

Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) is actually a very empowering process because it enables you to move beyond your past and become a creator not a victim – but it’s not a passive process, it requires action.  A lot of people get into affirmations, and visualising outcomes in the way it talks about in “The Secret”, and Louise Hay’s “You Can Heal Your Life” – and these are an important part of setting and achieving goals … as long as you take the ACTIONS needed to fulfill them!

I recently had a woman call me up and say, “I put a goal in my future, how come it didn’t happen?”

So I asked, “What action did you take towards that goal?”

“Nothing.  I just sat and waited. I sent out good thoughts.”

Sometimes things can manifest that way, I’m not denying that it’s possible, but usually if something’s worth having you have to put some energy into it. 

We all have two choices to make in our lives, and those choices will pretty much determine how satisfying our lives are.  We can Cause things to happen in our world, or we can experience the Effect of outside forces.  We can either be a Creator, or a Victim and it really is our choice to make.

Now, if we’ve made our choice, that doesn’t mean we are stuck with it forever.  I was working with a person who had been sexually abused when she was 9 years old, and 40 years later she could still summon all the anger, shame and grief she had felt 40 years earlier when the abuse had happened.  I want to be really clear here, sexual abuse is not something I would ever condone, and I’m passionate about fighting it, but this person had held onto all that negative emotion for 40 years – and do you know who she had damaged most?  Herself.  She had hyperthyroidism and a lot of other physical manifestations of her anger, grief and shame.

I believe strongly that there is a close connection between what happens in our minds, and what happens in our bodies because I saw this client’s health improve dramatically when she let go of negative mental emotions.  When she consented to let go of all the negative emotions – anger, shame and guilt  – from her past and recognise that they were binding her to it, both she and her doctor noticed improvements in her thyroid condition – as well as many of the other dis-eases which had plagued her.

Look, terrible things do happen to people – things we can’t change – and events that have terrible consequences.  But we always have one part in our control.  We can choose to hold onto the grief, shame, misery etc. or we can choose to  let them go.  If we hold onto them, we make ourselves a victim and bind ourselves to the perpetrator or to the event.  If we let go – and I do mean ‘let go’ not ‘suppress’ – then we can remain the creators of our lives and walk free.

Nelson Mandela is probably one of the greatest examples of this in our time.  He suffered terribly under Apartheid South Africa and he could have promoted a culture of victimisation and revenge.  Instead, he did his best to move his country forward to create a new future and a new identity.  It was a creative and courageous act – that we can imitate on a smaller scale.

Life is tough, and it can be very, very painful but we all have choices. If your life isn’t looking the way you want it ask yourself: “Am I making excuses about the things I’d like, but don’t have – and explaining why I don’t have them, or am I setting my goals, and then taking action to make them happen?”

Maybe they won’t happen as fast as you’d like them to, but they will arrive a whole lot faster than they will if you sit there and complain.

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