Lifepuzzle, Author at Life Puzzle

In today’s fast-paced business environment, the ability to effectively motivate a team is more critical than ever, especially for Small and Medium-sized Businesses (SMBs) aiming for rapid growth or transfer of ownership. Many founders see their managers struggle with this aspect of leadership, which not only stalls their growth trajectory, but also makes leadership transition a challenge. We’ve all seen – or experienced – the problems that arise when a visionary and effective founder passes a thriving business on to a new generation of leaders and performance plummets.

At Life Puzzle, we’ve developed a unique multi-tiered leadership training to address these challenges directly.

Here are the 5 Biggest Problems we see and how they impact motivation and action:

1. Lack of Clear Vision

Founders and business owners can usually articulate their vision clearly – which is why they are successful. Many managers don’t have that same level of clarity so they are unable to articulate a clear, compelling specific purpose for their team. We see this at every level which is why our training doesn’t just focus on ONE level of management – our multi pronged approach recognises that leadership is involved at EVERY level of an organisation, and we use that knowledge to accelerate growth. A study we conducted last year revealed that 70% of employees feel more motivated when they can clearly see how their work aligns with the company’s goals, so we create processes that bake in reminders and constantly refreshes alignment naturally.

2. Inadequate Skills in Recognizing and Utilizing Team Strengths

Every team member has unique strengths and weaknesses, but managers often struggle to recognize and leverage the strengths and account for weaknesses. Through our programs, managers learn to identify individual talents and delegate tasks accordingly, ensuring that everyone is primarily working in their zone of genius.

When anyone is asked to work in an area of weaknesses, managers are aware of this and able to offer appropriate support. This not only boosts productivity but also increases job satisfaction among team members.

3. Poor - or Inadequate - Communication Skills

Communication is the bedrock of motivation. A manager who does not communicate effectively in a timely fashion can expect misunderstandings, reduced morale, and a lack of direction. Communication is a skill that needs to be used and developed consistently – we call it a ‘use it or lose it’ skill. Misunderstandings occur, and pressure situations can interrupt normal communications but it’s very easy for managers to use these as an excuse to slip into bad habits, especially if they have a natural affinity for texting and email rather than picking up the phone or scheduling face-to-face meetings.

Our training modules include advanced communication skills, focusing on clarity, empathy, and active listening, equipping managers at every level with the tools to foster a more cohesive and motivated team.

4. Lack of Effective Feedback Mechanisms

Feedback is crucial for growth, yet many managers either avoid giving feedback or deliver it in a way that demotivates the team. We teach managers the art of giving and receiving constructive feedback that encourages growth and development, while also implementing continuous feedback mechanisms to promote a culture of continuous improvement. One of the most transformative elements of our approach is that managers learn how to receive feedback and train their teams to provide it effectively so that we effectively create ‘talent hotbeds’ after the form described in Daniel Coyle’s “The Talent Code”.

5. Inability to Inspire Trust and Sense of Responsibility

Trust and a sense of personal responsibility are key to motivation. Managers often fail to create an environment where team members feel trusted and empowered to carry out their tasks. Our training emphasizes on building trust and empowering teams and the individuals within them. This fosters accountability and a sense of ownership among team members and it also relieves the need to micro-manage projects because the lines of delegation and the principles and processes have been clearly articulated.

Chandell’s Observations

“I remember the moment I realised that a multi-level leadership training could accelerate the transformation and provide a healthy culture in any organisation. I’d been working with one particular team for 2 years and their team members were asking for some tools to help them grow as well.

The CEO agreed to a trial in one of the departments and at the end of 3 months the difference in productivity, motivation, and performance was clear. One of the unintended consequences of expanding the program throughout the company was that they suddenly had highly qualified candidates begging for job opportunities and their staff turnover dropped to nearly zero. A second unintended (but definitely hoped for) consequence was that clients were flocking to them as well so their revenues dramatically increased. It was like unlocking a new level of potential in both myself and the team.”

Why Choose Life Puzzle for Leadership Training?

At Life Puzzle, we don’t just talk about change; we create it. Our hands-on approach, NLP background, tailored content, and experienced trainers ensure that your managers and employees at every level, not only understand these concepts but also apply them effectively in their roles.

Our goal is to transform every member of your organisation into present and future leaders who inspire, motivate, and drive growth.

Are you ready to unlock the full potential of your team? Let’s talk about how working with us can transform your future.

In a world where casual conversations abound and words are seemingly tossed around like leaves in the wind, it’s easy to believe that language holds little significance – until you run foul of cancel culture. But is that really all we need to worry about?

The notion that words are mere fleeting expressions is misguided – which is the reason why totalitarian regimes through the ages have redefined or eliminated words. You can see this in Soviet-era dictionaries, and it’s highlighted in George Orwell’s famous novel “1984” where the intentions of the ‘thought-police’ (actually word-police) is spelled. The reality of word-power for political and philosophical purposes is clear – let’s look at it’s place in our own communications and it’s impact on our ability to lead and motivate others effectively and excel in selling our ideas and products.

The Significance of Names and Words

Long ago, in many parts of the world and diverse cultures, one’s ‘true’ name was a closely guarded secret, shared only with those held in utmost trust. People were known by their ‘common’ names from birth but received their ‘true’ name, often during puberty or initiation, reflecting their inner character and gifts. Beyond names, words themselves held immense power, giving rise to the belief in spells and chants. These had to be carefully crafted to be effective in healing, harming, or creating.

Twentieth-century totalitarian regimes exploited slogans, chants, and the manipulation of language to brainwash and control people. Then came the advent of television, a medium that could sway and shape public perception. This history demonstrates the compelling influence of words and language on human behavior and thought.

Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP)

In Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), it is asserted that the language we use significantly shapes our neurology, influencing the way we think, which then affects our actions and results. This concept underlines the idea that the words we use to describe ourselves, situations, or other people, matter deeply because they sculpt our perception of reality and make us more or less susceptible to external influences.

Consider this: When you are resourceful and empowered, you can uplift and empower others. Conversely, when you undermine yourself with negative self-talk, you inadvertently undermine those around you.

How might that truth affect people you lead and work with?

Mindful Language

If words truly matter, then it is imperative to be conscious of the language you employ when communicating with yourself, others, and in addressing various situations.

When was the last time you really reflected on the words you speak to yourself, to others, and the internal conversations and images you create when thinking about ideas and plans of action?

Here are some questions to ask yourself:

Self-talk: If you were talking to your best friend, would you say to them what you silently say to yourself? Choose to create a positive atmosphere and forward momentum by using language that you’d be comfortable with others overhearing.
Conflict Resolution: How do you respond to a colleague, child, or relative (or yourself) when they have made a mistake? What words can you use to help them take responsibility and work toward a solution without feeling that they have failed for life.
Reason and Action: How can you bring the voice of reason and constructive action into a world often filled with panic about global and local issues that wants to see everything in black and white.
Acts of Kindness: What is something practical that you could do in a difficult situation to show compassion and thoughtfulness and help others know they have been heard – even if they won’t get what they want. Sometimes it’s as simple as offering a kind word, a tissue, or a cup of water, to let the person know you see them.

Remember, your choices, particularly your choice of words, may not move heaven and earth, but they can certainly bring sunshine into your life and the lives of others, thereby changing your life.

“Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless.”
~ Mother Teresa

Your Words Matter to Your Business

Your words matter, not only in how you relate to yourself but in your leadership and sales endeavors. The way you communicate with others and frame situations can have a profound impact on your success.

Consider taking control of your linguistic patterns to shape your neurology positively. If you want practical guidance and support, Life Puzzle has programs that can help you build a vibrant internal culture where communication is both efficient and effective AND a strong sales culture to boost your revenue and profitability.

“Your prospects and clients have their BS detector on high alert these days.
The old adage, ‘people don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care’ has been heightened
by the growing fear that you might not even be talking to a human being.

The service businesses thriving right now are the ones who are
unquestionably human – even if that comes at the cost of perfection.”
~ Chandell Labbozzetta

In today’s rapidly evolving technological landscape, artificial intelligence (AI) has become an integral part of our lives. From voice assistants to autonomous vehicles, the influence of AI can be felt in almost every industry. However, a certain amount of suspicion has crept in alongside this transformation and your customers are asking…

What do I REALLY want?

Often, their answer is: a human being to talk to.

The Role of Human Communication

Human communication is the foundation of human society. It’s the basis of relationships and that indefinable sense of connection and communion. Today’s AI is pretty amazing, but neuroscientists have tested some of the most sophisticated models against a 10-month old baby… And the baby wins.

Of course, the baby can’t articulate everything that it absorbs from the humans around it, but unlike an AI artefact, it can learn and react without being trained. This is a crucial reality to keep in mind when it comes to the role of human-to-human communication in your business… An AI assistant will be more consistent, less likely to make mistakes (when properly trained), and more economical than a human, but if you don’t have humans available (warts and all) your customer service and long-term relationships with clients will go downhill.

AI as a Tool, Not a Replacement

Once you see AI merely as a tool rather than as a substitute for human interaction you are in a great position to make wise decisions about your sales and customer processes. AI can deliver output (the quality of which is dependent on the inputs it is given), but human communication goes far beyond the exchange of information; it encompasses empathy, emotional intelligence, and the capacity to understand complex ideas and evaluate intricate situations while relating to others. These qualities are essential for creating a motivated, productive workplace with a healthy culture and are the reason why in-person meetings, phone calls, and video calls are more effective than texts and emails in certain situations.

Amplifying Influence and Leadership Skills

As an NLP Master Trainer specialising in corporate training, I have witnessed firsthand the transformative effects of effective human communication in the workplace. By harnessing the power of personal communication, leaders can amplify their influence and inspire their teams in ways that are far more effective than the most persuasive email.

Here are the Three Facets of In-Person Communication:

Active Listening: Leaders who actively listen to their employees create an environment of trust and mutual understanding. By genuinely hearing concerns and ideas, leaders can foster a culture of innovation and collaboration.
Non-Verbal Communication: Body language, facial expressions, and gestures play a significant role in how our messages are perceived. A skilled communicator understands the importance of non-verbal cues and uses them to convey empathy and build rapport as well as to identify disapproval and resistance.
Verbal Persuasion: Leaders don’t just listen and observe, they also need to proactively influence others to embrace their vision and goals. Effective persuasion involves understanding the needs and motivations of your audience and tailoring your message accordingly.

Embracing the Union of Technology and Human Connection

AI technology is an exciting tool, but it’s just that. It is up to us to use this technology in a way that enhances human connection and supports our long-term goals. I’m noticing two distinct bands of response to AI:

Those people who embrace it with excitement and want to deploy it at every possible point. I equate these people to the handyman who gets a new tool and wants to use it for every job – even the ones for which he already has a great tool;
Those who avoid AI like the plague and see it as a danger to humanity’s ongoing existence. AI has its dangers – like therapeutic drugs – but rejecting all applications of AI out of fear risks missing out on its substantial benefits.

I believe we need to deliberately embrace a balanced approach which uses AI and yet maintains a distance. This is particularly true when you are leading an organisation and shaping the response of your team to innovation and future-thinking. Ask the questions you would ask for any other investment or new program or hire that you were about to make.

As you venture into the world of AI, make sure that you prioritise the development of your team’s communication skills and emotional intelligence because those are the characteristics that will set your organisation apart from competitors who leaned too far into jungle of robots and lost connection with their customers and staff.

Don’t Get Distracted by AI

In an AI-focused world, it is easy to become mesmerised by the capabilities of technology and dive down the rabbit-hole of possibilities that it offers. It’s definitely worth exploring these things and implementing them in your business. At the same time, unless your goal is to build a commodity business, you should always ensure that you are strengthening the human element of your business and prioritising efforts that inspire, motivate, and bring out the best in your colleagues and clients.

As creative leaders and effective managers, our goal is never merely to maximise efficiency. It is always to create a harmonious and prosperous workplace where people can flourish, grow, contribute, and make the world a happier and healthier place.

“Did you know that the #1 reason people don’t ask for a sale is not because they don’t think the product or service, they are selling is valuable?
… It’s because they are afraid their prospect doesn’t like them enough to buy.”
~ Chandell Labbozzetta

Liking Really DOES Matter in Business

One of my early sales mentors and models used to remind the team at every single meeting that emotion and personality were just as important in Business-to-Business sales as they are in Business-to-Consumer sales – in some ways they are even more important. Closing a sale is almost never simply about features, benefits, and logic.

I often tell the story of Bob, the Photocopier man in my sales trainings – for context here’s the short version…

Some years ago, I was preparing for a conference and the department decided they needed to print some additional materials. We had a problem with our existing copier, and I had authorisation to purchase a new one. I was trying to distinguish between two copiers that looked identical from a brand that we knew and liked, and they sent their sales representative to talk to me.
Time was short and a couple of my colleagues were out sick, so I just wanted to clarify the features and order the new photocopier as quickly as possible. I explained this to Bob when he arrived, but he wasn’t listening and jumped straight to the start of his presentation. 90-minutes later I ushered him out the door without the sale and called the competing company.

When we’re talking about this situation during training people sometimes think this is an example of “Just get to the point, answer the question, and take the sale when you’re talking to a business.” It’s not – in fact, it’s the opposite.

You see, when Bob walked into our office the only thing that stood between him and a $45,000 closed sale was his ability to read the customer and answer my burning questions. He failed to do that… And he lost the sale to his competitor. In fact, he cost his company hundreds of thousands of dollars because before long all our photocopiers came from the competitor.

So, here are the 5 secrets that will get people to like you and give you the sale…

Secret of Liking #1: Listen Carefully

If you’re selling anything you need to know the product or service you are selling inside out. By all means, have your scripts and presentations ready and study the FAQs, but the real secret to creating trust and likely is your ability to discover what they really need to know before they buy – and to determine the questions they are not asking.

Secret of Liking #2: Discover Your Prospect’s Primary Communication Style

We all have one or two senses that are more highly developed than others. Identifying (and using) the language that resonates most effectively with the person you are talking to is an incredibly effective way of building trust and liking with others. It has the added benefit of demonstrating that you are really listening (See Secret #1).

Discover your own primary communication style by taking this short quiz.

Secret of Liking #3: Enter Their World

In the world of advertising, you’ll often hear people say that you need to ‘enter the conversation people are already having in their own heads.’ That’s a powerful truth for increasing engagement, but it’s also a wise strategy for creating and growing the emotional connection between two people. It’s hard not to like someone who demonstrates both by their questions and their responses to your answers that they have made the effort to understand your world and to feel your pain and that opens people up to listen when you offer a solution.

Secret of Liking #4: Pay Attention to Details Specifics sell.

Generalisations may capture the imagination and intrigue, but without details to back up the lofty promises and glorious vision they can lead to suspicion. In one-to-one conversations (in person, on the phone, or via Zoom), use the information you have gathered from applying secrets #1-3 to zero in on the details that you know will interest the other person. Save the ‘laundry list’ for large group communications and sales letters where you are speaking to a wider group.

Secret of Liking #5: Give Them Space

Humans are designed to pursue that which runs away and flee from that which pursues. The needy salesperson rarely makes a sale because prospects sense their desperation and instinctively step back. Your likability index measurably increases when you give others space to explore other options while knowing that you are still there. There’s a fine, fine line between persistence and space and so it’s essential to expand your communication and people-reading skills.

At LifePuzzle Sales is the #1 Life Skill

We believe that this is true because sales is also a fundamental HUMAN skill – one of the few skills that doesn’t just apply to one aspect of your life, but which translates across cultures, languages, environments, and specialties.

As we run trainings in corporate environments, as well as public trainings we constantly hear back that the communication and persuasion skills our clients learn are transforming their teams, homes, marriages, parenting, and friendships (even though we don’t actually conduct marriage or parenting training). I think that it is a sad reflection on our society that it puts ‘sales’ in the icky pile (you wouldn’t believe how many people recoil from the idea of sales training) because I think that has two critical consequences (quite apart from the actual $$ value of a sale):

Without well-developed sales (persuasion, influence, and communication) skills no-one is able to share their excellent ideas persuasively and the world misses out on opportunities for growth, change, and productive discussion;
Anyone who is not well-equipped to sell their own ideas and products and to influence others is vulnerable to leaders, managers, and others who possess those skills… Which can lead to dangerously authoritarian situations.

If you would like to learn more about LifePuzzle’s sales and communication programs and their role in business development, take a look HERE.

“The greatest sales people in the world respect their buyers and leave them feeling confident that they have just made a fantastic decision that will help them achieve their goals more easily.”
~ Chandell Labbozzetta

The Impact of AI on YOUR Sales Numbers and Influence

AI is actually something of a red herring.

The truth is that we’ve all been using AI in the background for years without ever thinking much about it, but now it seems as though people are worried that it will take their jobs, their clients, and their business away. For some people that may be a real threat, but here’s the good news… It’s up to you whether AI is the promise of abundance or the threat of scarcity. That outcome is something you CAN control!

I’m working with sales professionals and leaders in many different fields who are using AI to accelerate and empower their sales results. For example, Jenny is using AI to locate ideal clients and research their background so that she can direct her conversations and focus on their highest goals. It has enabled her to get to a 91.3% close rate, more than doubling her sales value with less time spent and ensuring that she has a waiting list of highly qualified clients. Anna is using AI to motivate her team and help them track their performance more actively – as a result, individuals have discovered new strengths as well as ways to overcome weaknesses and plug the holes in their system. For both of them, AI has been the tool they never realised they were missing that enables them to fully use the human potential in themselves and their collaborators.

How is that possible?

It simply requires that you recognise what AI is good at and use it to help you track and perform those actions, while also letting your human side shine. AI is like your calendar or your PA on steroids – helping you plan and organise more effectively so that you have more time and energy to do the things you do best.

What Does it Mean to be Authentically Human in Sales & Leadership Anyway?

Scripts are powerful. They give us guidelines – rather like a rope in a cave – but when we depend on them too much, they turn human beings into tools and robots.

It doesn’t matter if you are delivering a formal sales presentation, having a phone conversation, or an in-person meeting… A script can be deadening or it can deliver results – depending on the other skills you bring to the conversation.

A recent example of this was shared during a session in which we played recordings of real conversations. It comes from a performance discussion:

Manager: How’s it going, Sally?
Sally: I’m having a terrible week, my cat had to be put down on Sunday.
Manager: Oh. (Brief pause) Well, how do you feel that’s going to affect your numbers this week?
Sally: (sounding disinterested) They’ll stay about the same.
Manager: Are you sure? I’d hate to see you lose your bonus.
…
I mean!!! Here you have two people face-to-face in the same room and all the manager can say is, “Oh!” before continuing on with the planned conversation. I’d have to say he deserves to feel threatened by AI because that was about as scripted and inhuman as you can get.

If Sally had been talking with a chat bot it might have at least been programmed to offer a response to her news about her cat.

As it happens, this manager has been passed over for promotion several times because he has not worked on his listening and conversational skills. He feels like he’s good at his job, organised, and cares about the company so he deserves a promotion. He doesn’t understand that leadership isn’t about competence as much as it is about influence which comes from being human and relatable.

I could have told you some equivalent examples from sales calls and presentations where the individual ignored the cues from his audience and pressed on with his prepared message. You can probably think of some yourself.

Effective sales people (and leaders) can tune into their audience, they know how to listen and pick out the key phrases or emotions others need to hear, and they can respond appropriately to other people and then return to their presentation or script gracefully, leaving the other person feeling they have been heard… And, therefore, open to listen in turn to what you are saying.

What is the Difference between Authentically Human Sales and Traditional Sales Strategies

“The person with the most flexibility controls the situation.”

Traditional Sales Strategies can be a little like the manager I quoted above – so focused on the script and the message that they can’t manage to deal with any variations. Really effective sales people may use the same strategies and scripts as others, but they have the ability to pay close attention to the person in front of them, to listen closely, and to make adjustments to their language, mannerisms, and the way the present the facts.

In a thriving economy, scripts and systems are incredibly effective, but when things get tough, it is the connection and relationship that dictates the outcome. That means that you need the flexibility of authentic humanity and the more powerfully you can project that, the more effectively you will be able to sell you product, service, or idea to others.

The era of heavily scripted and automated sales is over. If that is your preferred (or only) method of selling it’s time to expand your range… Or you really will be an AI casualty.

Leadership and Sales - the Power Couple!

If you think that your ‘Sales Team’ are the only ones who need to know how to sell your products and services then it’s time to reevaluate your approach. When I tell people that Sales is the #1 Life Skill, I often get pushback and a request to explain why I say that because it seems to me that when it comes to things people fear, if Public Speaking is the top contender and Death is second, then Sales is in third place. I get that… If you’re thinking of the pushy, sleazy sales tactics that are often associated with used cars and real estate…

BUT – the truth is that we are all selling

Ideas
Behaviours & Habits
Products & Services
Choices

… Unless we stand back and take the approach which lets other people dig their own grave if they don’t immediately resonate with the advice we offer.

Natural consequences are great teachers – yet, as parents, friends, colleagues – and certainly as leaders – there are many lessons we’d all prefer to have our children or others learn from advice rather than experience.

That is why leaders in every context need to hone their sales skills and their ability to choose the right examples, present them appropriately with language and images suitable for the person listening to them… So that you can deliberately and purposefully lead others to examine their options critically, choose wisely, and follow through diligently.

How to Accelerate Your Sales Skills in a Changing World

As I’ve mentioned previously, sales skills aren’t just about selling products and making money – and they’re certainly not about manipulating others for your benefit at their expense. If the idea of ‘sales’ leaves a nasty taste in your mouth then you probably need to make a determined and decisive effort to reevaluate your position.

If you aren’t averse to ‘sales’ but recognise that your current skills aren’t sufficient for the future challenges you anticipate then you probably already know that I’m going to suggest that you improve your ability to:

Listen actively
Ask probing and powerful questions
Accurately observe others’ behaviour
Use appropriate language
Build strong connections
Create powerful visions of the future

Your question is probably:

“How can I take my existing knowledge to the next level?”

My answer:

“Knowledge is not enough. You also need to practice, experiment, and get feedback.”

Which is why I’m excited that we can once again hold in-person events!

My Leadership Sales Summit is designed to guide you through this way of selling in an authentically human fashion so that both parties feel valued and end with a sense of satisfaction and a stronger relationship. This is not ‘merely theory’ it’s 2 days of solid practice and learning with the goal of enhancing your skills.

Click HERE to email the team and register for Early Admission and join us for this powerful and transformational experience.

Part 1 of this series can be found HERE: Unleash Your Communication Superhero and Boost Your Sales Naturally

“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
~ Maya Angelou

“Every effective sales person knows that a script will only take you so far. Every parent or boss knows that you can’t argue people into commitment. Every leader knows the power of conviction and authenticity.”
~ Chandell Labbozzetta

More than Words - The Secret of Convincing Others Every Time You Speak

Mindset has become the new sales buzz word for a reason: we now have the tools to measure the impact a person’s emotional state has on those around them and we can see what happens to participants when you walk into a sales meeting believing that you won’t make the sale.

In 2008, Alex Pentland published a book Honest Signals: How They Shape Our World based on his studies in non-verbal communications at MIT. While there have been other books on similar topics, this is the first publication to rely on brain technology and other tools to objectively measure these signals. He and his team measured the effect of that mysterious quality known as ‘charisma’ – a synthesis of mindset and comportment and discovered that they were able to make direct correlations between the depth and quality of the non-verbal signals people unconsciously emit and their results in:

Closing sales
Attracting grants and other funding
Getting buy-in for plans and ideas from colleagues, connections, and crowds.

There are two incredibly exciting implications of this research that apply to anyone who thinks of themselves as a leader (for whom sales is the #1 skill) or a sales professional:

Every human being who chooses to do so can learn to amplify and project the kind of positive energy (charisma) that creates sales; and
AI cannot project emotion in ways that humans connect with – even if they mimic emotional intonations and use the right words.

Emotional Quotient - Charisma - Mindset… The Secret of Creating Powerful Personal Connection

I’m not a big fan of buzzwords. They carry too many loaded (and often inaccurate) connotations although they can also provide a useful shorthand for complex ideas. However, the first two of these words (Emotional Quotient – Charisma) are usually used as a statement of a fixed attribute: you either have them or you don’t. This means that they are used to assess candidates for leadership or sales as a threshold, rather than as a skill that can be learned and expanded.

That’s like saying, “I’m bad at maths so I’ll never learn to count.” Or “I’m not built to run a marathon.” I bet that even Mozart struggled to play a tune the first time he sat down at the piano.

In my book, Confident Closing: Sales secrets that grew a business by 400% in six months and how they can work for you! I tell the story about the sales team I was assigned to transform and how a diverse group of ‘sales failures’ learned to create powerful personal connections and deliver sensational results. What I don’t mention in the book is that the exercise wasn’t actually a last-ditch effort to salvage a failing team… it was a calculated plan to lay off those team members as non-performers and to return the business to the 1980’s style pressure sales techniques preferred by the Head of Sales. I knew before I took the role that these talented people struggled to connect, but I believed that I could solve their problem – and I proved my point.

Recognising Bad Vibes - Learn How to Use Humour, Assertiveness and Empathy to Direct Difficult Conversations

You can’t always predict when a conversation that should have been straightforward will become unexpectedly tense and difficult – and even when you know a conversation will be challenging you can’t accurately discern all the twists it may take in advance. That’s why you need to develop your ability to read the body language, energetic field, and tone changes of your companions as well as their words.

If you are following a script – or AI prompts, – you may avoid the awkward silence that comes when your offer is rejected or deflected and you don’t know what to say next, but you will also lose the opportunity to discover what is really happening in your prospect’s life. Not only will that leave people feeling neutral or negative towards you, but it also eliminates the ability to scope out opportunities and initiate future conversations. There is no denying that AI is powerful and that it has many valid applications – BUT the best way to future-proof your life and career is to focus on creativity, emotion, and the skills that make humans human.

The Power of Attention in a Distracted World - Whether You are Selling Ideas, Leadership, or Products & Services Human Response Can Save the Day

The day may come when machines take over the earth and nothing human has any further value, but that is still a long way off. For the foreseeable future, there is no substitute for skilled human connection. The problem is that the fascination and safety of our electronic devices and communications has done a great deal of damage to our ability to read and respond to other people. While the sales and communication skills we teach at Life Puzzle are based on Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), we are not merely teaching a system or a set of scripts. We equip our clients with the ability to amplify their human skills and to accurately observe and respond to prospects in ways that build trust, liking, and confidence based on authentic communication.

If you’d like to learn more about amplifying your human superpowers and becoming an expert in active listening skills, join our email list and get semi-weekly emails with communication skills as well as regular updates on upcoming courses and events so you can become a communication superhero.

*Remember to check out Part 1 of this series HERE: Unleash Your Communication Superhero and Boost Your Sales Naturally

“There is enough pain and difficulty in most people’s lives. When you offer them a pleasurable escape and then deliver what you promised you will have a customer for life… The second part of that statement is what builds your reputation and relationship.”
~ Chandell Labbozzetta

Are you ready to take your business and relationships to new heights?

If so, then you need to hone your communication and relationship-building skills so that you can have more effective conversations and make lasting connections. STOP making excuses about your ability to communicate, be memorable, and make sales. Everyone can learn these powerful communication skills that will not only make you more influential but will also enrich every area of your life.

WARNING: Don’t Promise What You Can’t Deliver!

Sales and salespeople have a lousy reputation.
What negative images and impressions do you have around sales?
What adjectives do you mentally associate with sales?

Common examples include: used car sales people, real estate agents, MLM recruiters. Common adjectives include: sleazy, pushy, lying, deceptive…

As a sales trainer and the founder of Life Puzzle, a sales and personal development company, I often hear these negative stereotypes offered as reasons why people don’t want to participate in sales training. “I want to be authentic and genuine,” people will say – or… “I don’t want to force people into a decision.”

I agree wholeheartedly.

IF… you don’t believe that your product or service can:

Deliver what you promise,
Solve the problem that is keeping your prospect in pain, and
Offer a valuable return on their investment,

THEN… Find something that does. Don’t promise what you can’t deliver. Ever!

So… Now that I’ve delivered that warning, let’s talk about the key to effective sales and persuasion (which is the bigger context of sales) => Communication Skills

Discover Your Superpower - Identify Your Communication Strengths and Weaknesses

Good teachers start with an inventory of their students’ individual strengths and weaknesses even if they’re teaching a class. It doesn’t matter what skill you are talking about, this is a fundamental tool for helping your students make observable progress and it applies to communication skills as much as to anything else.

One of the things I look for in any trainers that I add to my team is an ongoing learning habit because that makes them better teachers. You see, habitual learners find creative ways to identify their own strengths and weaknesses and that enables them to identify them in others and give specific targeted feedback and analysis. This is especially important in communication because – for most people – their problem isn’t “communication” as a whole, it is specific parts of the communication process that they find challenging – for some it’s attention or focus; for others it might be body language or eye-contact skills; for others, it’s the words they choose.

Once you understand your own specific strengths and weaknesses in communication, you can take steps to enhance your strengths and overcome your weaknesses – and for most people that takes personal attention which is why people struggle to progress when they just buy a book or a course that doesn’t provide personalised feedback.

Put on Your Cape and Mask - Become an Expert in Body Language and Active Listening Skills

Just 7% of communication consists of the words used. The rest of your communication is non-verbal. That doesn’t make your choice of words UNimportant – but it doesn’t mean that you have more to work on than just your words if you want to enhance your communication skills.

I remember one student who couldn’t work out why people felt uncomfortable talking to him. Within minutes we identified the problem: he was making too much eye-contact and invariably people he talked to would break off the conversation as quickly as possible because it looked like he was trying to stare them out or hypnotise them. He had heard about making eye-contact and over-developed the habit. He didn’t break it at once, especially if he was interested and engaged in conversation, but as he became better at reading body language and active listening he was more attuned to his conversation partner and learned to read the signals.

Today, he uses eye contact appropriately to communicate focused attention, but he’s quick to perceive if others are feeling threatened and to adjust his technique appropriately.

Fundamentals of Communication SuperPowers

In Part 2, we’ll look at the communication strategies required to tackle difficult conversations, handle conflict, manage collaboration, and build strong durable relationships with colleagues and customers, but it all starts with a growing understanding of your communication strengths and weaknesses and your ability to read other people’s responses.

If sales is the #1 life skill, then confident and congruent communication is the heart of any successful sale – especially if it’s complex and your prospects might be confused about their options and alternatives.

One of the most frequent comments we get at Life Puzzle when we speak or conduct trainings is from people who think they are sales-allergic. We’ll hear things like, “I have never attended a course that had so many applications to my life outside work.” Especially during multi-day trainings we’ll hear accounts of the wonderful conversation they had with their spouse and how they resolved a long-standing dilemma (as well as the surprise sale they closed)… But my favourite story was the woman who arrived for Day 2 of her workplace training absolutely beaming: after five years of marriage, she had used her newfound skills to totally disarm her mother-in-law and get her to cook a delicious dinner rather than complaining about her daughter-in-law’s food.

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“Quality is never an accident. It is always the result of intelligent effort.”

~ John Ruskin

The Quality of Your Sales Training Affects Your Bottom Line

I was talking to a regional sales manager a few weeks ago about our sales training program and he told me the following story…

Like most growing companies, we invest in our sales teams consistently because we know that when our sales representatives are encouraged and successful our whole company flourishes. Last year we hired a well-known sales training company to deliver a 12-month program for us. It was an expensive contract, but we anticipated at least a 3X gain. Three months into the contract we noticed that our sales numbers had slumped and morale was slipping. Things got worse from there! It turned out that this well-known sales training company was doing 5 things that nearly destroyed the sales team in a very short space of time.

Sales Training Killer #1: An Ineffective System (or No System At All)

A sales system doesn’t have to complex, but you do need a system and it must be effective. Your sales system has three main purposes:

Guide activity and ensure that sales representatives focus on the key products and prospects;
Easy to use so that your people don’t resist the system and follow their own ways instead;
Show real time results so that sales representatives can see what is working (or not working) and get feedback and guidance to change outcomes.

You might think that this is a no-brainer and that every sales training program would teach an appropriate, workable system, but that’s (unfortunately) not true.

Sales Training Killer #2: No Feedback Loop or Negative Feedback Loop

Again, this should be a no-brainer: every coach gives a steady stream of targeted feedback designed to improve performance and acknowledge positive efforts and results and effective sales trainers use the same methods. Sadly, this is uncommon and so people leave training sessions without any clear indication of whether they are implementing their new skills properly or not.

Sometimes, you’ll hear people say, “that doesn’t work” when what they really mean is, “I never learned that right and discovered years later that I’d completely misunderstood the concept or tool.”

Sales Training Killer #3: Boring Basics

The fundamentals of sales are exactly that… Fundamental skills that enhance your results. A great sales training program helps every participant to go deeper into those fundamentals and should give individuals a sense of momentum. After all, every day, every sales encounter (whether it’s successful or not) is a chance to learn and grow.

Michael Jordan practiced free throws every single day, long after he could score a shot while looking in a completely different direction. He used to say that he was still learning more about himself ands body every day. Successful sales training demands the same level of focused awareness as you tune into what is happening in your mental, physical, and emotional state rather than mechanically going through the motions.

Sales Training Killer #4: Focusing on Irrelevant Details

Details matter in sales… Until they don’t. Some sales training programs will zoom in on situational details that may or may not be relevant rather than focusing on the principles that drive your thinking in different situations.

Contrary to popular belief there is no single presentation style or script that will work for every person. As a sales trainer, especially when delivering an in-house program, poor programs focus on irrelevant specifics which leave sales personnel insecure and poorly equipped to handle a change in the product, a new objection, or merely a client with a different personality.

Sales Training Killer #5: Assume the Sale

You must go into every sales encounter with curiosity about your prospect and a genuine desire to determine whether your product is a good fit in terms of outcomes and budget. Yes, you need a positive attitude, but you also need to be ready to acknowledge that you might not have the best solution for them.

When you always assume the sale, discovering that your product/service does not fit their needs feels like a failure and that is discouraging. Effective sales training inculcates a positive curiosity and openness that generally leaves both sides feeling positive even if no sale occurs.

Marks of Successful Sales Training Programs

Identify sales trainers who focus on creative sales training techniques and train the principles of self-awareness, authentic communication, and open curiosity as well as proven systems that are easy to use and appropriately designed.

Expect an effective custom-designed training program to be designed around a 12-month series of modules so there is time to build skills and understanding. I’ve seen three-month accelerator programs deliver great results and then the company says we’ve got what we wanted so we won’t sign up for the next phase – this is a false economy. Every time that has happened results have stalled.

So all I can say is…

REMEMBER: sales are the lifeblood of your company. Don’t skimp on your training but keep your sales force sharp.

“The greatest success is to be able to reach your goals through the right mindset and preparedness. With determination and dedication, everything can be achieved.”

~ Fyodor Dostoevsky

What Is Success and How Can You Achieve It?

We all want success in life and most people are on the hunt for a way to achieve it because they realise that it won’t just fall into their lap.

But how do you define success?

How will you know when you have achieved it?

First of all you need to define what success means for you. My definition of success probably isn’t the same as yours, which is…

a very good thing because we are both unique people with our own desires and goals; and
enabling – because I can help you achieve your goal without jeopardising my ability to reach my own goal.

First, you need to set clear goals that are meaningful for you. Then you need to make a plan to reach those goals which sometimes requires an outside eye – and always demands hard work over time. Along the way, you will probably make mistakes and it’s important for you to recognise them, learn from them, and keep moving forward.

A positive and empowering mindset and a good coach are key factors when you are learning new skills and trying to achieve more than you’ve ever done before. Both of these keep you focused on the goal and provide momentum when you hit setbacks.

Think of your success in the same way that elite athletes approach their own goals – they don’t try to get their alone – they have carefully selected team to support them.

The Power of Mindset in Achieving Success

Your mindset is one of the most important elements in achieving success.

Mindset plays a very important part in your success – or lack thereof. The difference between a true champion and a ‘wannabe’ is rarely a question of talent. It has very little to do with the training, time, or effort expended either. Instead, it has everything to do with the message that your unconscious mind is sending out.

Having a sense of purpose, repeating affirmations, and believing in yourself help you to remain focused and motivated, but retraining your unconscious mind and removing every trace of doubt is even more powerful. When all the messages you send to yourself are 100% congruent then you will make better decisions, react to challenges more quickly, and have more confidence to go for what you want and succeed in reaching your goals.

How to Be Prepared for Anything Life Throws Your Way

Life rarely turns out exactly how we planned it to look.

Stuff happens – sometimes that’s fantastic – like being invited to work with a dream client or given a huge promotion; sometimes it stinks – like a cancer diagnosis or a cancelled contract.

I remember the year my Mum died – unexpectedly soon after a cancer diagnosis. It wasn’t just that I was overwhelmed with grief, everything was complicated by the fact that we were also in business together and we had a busy year of trainings scheduled for both of us – tied to income as well as promises we had made to clients.

I had a plan for the year that I had thought was pretty robust – but suddenly I had to come up with an alternative almost overnight. Thankfully, I have trained my mind to offer solutions, rather than roadblocks and I had a team of coaches and colleagues to draw on because I needed all the flexibility of thinking and action I could muster, but I know that many people have trained their minds to focus on problems rather than solutions…

Are you one of them?

Here’s a quick test…

You’ve just been told that a valuable client is quitting at the end of the month. You need to make up their income immediately or you won’t be able to pay your bills. How well do you sleep that night and where do your thoughts run?

Identifying and Developing a Winning Mindset

Hopefully, your answer to the scenario I’ve just outlined went something like this…

Check the balance sheet and determine the minimum client value required to break even;
Check pipeline to see if there are any upgrades or new prospects who can fill the gap;
Sketch out some alternative revenue streams for quick cash or client influx;
Consider some long-term strategic actions that will mean you are never again this dependent on a single client;
Get on with whatever you had planned for the evening;
Go to sleep expecting a solution to present itself and get a good night’s sleep.

A winning mindset:

Acknowledges the reality and the gravity of a situation – it doesn’t try to blur the unpleasant consequences or details whether it’s in the sphere of business, relationships, health, or finances;
Evaluates existing options (if any);
Looks for unexplored opportunities, information, ideas – and is willing to list and entertain even the seemingly impossible or improbable;
Assumes that this problem will demand them to grow and stretch to meet its demands;
Sets the problem aside;
Goes to sleep asking for solutions rather than wallowing in the problem and creating desperation.

… And the result is that the next day, you are well-rested and equipped to….

Take Decisive Action Towards Your Goals

You see, a winning mindset isn’t just affirmations and self-talk.

It’s the kind of self-talk that ignites massive and decisive action and creates desirable outcomes that really matter to you.

And that brings us right back to where we started… to YOUR definition of Success.

If you need some clarity on what success means to you – maybe because you’ve been pursuing someone else’s definition of success – or if you have been derailed by catastrophe and don’t have anyone to help you get your mindset back together – then we’d love to help you.

Click HERE to schedule a FREE 15-minute clarity call with one of our team and see if one of our programs will help you get back on track.

“Actions speak louder than words!

As a sales person, your best metric of success is sales, not praise.”

~ Chandell Labbozzetta

Trying to convince someone to buy your product or service is more than just about putting in the basics of persuasion. Persuasion encompasses a variety of communication and trust-building skills to bring people around to your way of thinking. Learning how to convince people in sales starts with, on a very simple level, building a relationship with that person. Starting a relationship with somebody who doesn’t believe they need your product or service is tough, and this is where some of the following tactics and techniques can ensure that you build that relationship.

How Do You Persuade in Sales?

Give People a Reason to Listen

One of the most important things any potential customer will be thinking when you approach them is whether they should give you the time of day or not. Giving them a reason why they should give you their hard-earned time is the first step because if you do not provide clarity on how your message connects with your potential customer, you will never get to tell them why they should invest those few seconds.

Show Them Why They Can Trust You

You’ve got to show them that you care about their needs first, and when you get their attention, showing them you care involves understanding them. In the sales process, you have to first listen and show the commonalities based on their pain points and how you can take them in the right direction. Once you show them you care, you’ve got to highlight your credibility and how you are an expert, because this will give your customers a reason to trust you.

Practice NLP Techniques

Using Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) techniques can be very helpful when trying to persuade people in sales. These techniques involve using verbal language and body language to influence the way someone perceives an offer or product. NLP can be used to increase the credibility of your message, as well as build rapport with a potential customer.

How Do You Talk in Sales?

When it comes to delivering a sales pitch, you need to get to grips with the matter of how you talk. If you’ve obtained their trust, now is when you have to focus on the process of the things you say and how you say them. When it comes to how you talk and deliver your amazing sales pitch, you must consider the following:

Do Not Just Think About the Words

You need to communicate enthusiasm and confidence, and this is down to how you present yourself. According to the 7-38-55 Rule, 7% of all communication is done through the words you speak, but the remainder comes from your body language and your facial expressions. This is why you must pay particular attention to how you say something. You should imagine that you are communicating with someone that doesn’t understand what you are saying, because this will give you an insight into those times when just your tone of voice and visual cues can stimulate a working relationship. Open and honest body language and tone of voice will make people want to listen.

Consider Your Mindset

One shortcut to appearing enthusiastic is to be enthusiastic. You may have seen sales reps or public speakers get into the zone by practising talking, standing up, or getting into a certain frame of mind. When they do this, it goes straight to the core of who they are, to the point where they are not playing a role but are instead embodying a certain behaviour. You need to put yourself in that emotional state before delivering your pitch. Some people do this by exercising, and others practice visualisation, but the reality is that you should do what works for you.

Prepare for Objections

Rather than following the natural ebb and flow of a conversation, you need to rehearse every possible permutation, including any form of objection. Selling to somebody is about providing helpful solutions to their problems, but if this individual prospect is putting up barriers throughout every part of the conversation, you need to prepare for the most common objections. These can include:

Avoiding eye contact.
Defensive body language.
Cutting you off mid-sentence.

When you identify the most common objections and prepare solutions to them, you must rehearse them to the point that they become second nature.

How Do You Sound Convincing in Sales?

The notion of being convincing in sales is not about an “us versus them” approach. Rather than thinking that you need to go into battle, some of the most important psychological tricks include the following:

Mirroring the Tonality of the Prospects

When cold calling potential customers, mirroring is an excellent technique to overcome barriers, where you mimic the customer behaviour by adopting their body language, speech patterns, and attitude. It is something that humans do to connect with each subconsciously. If you become in tune with your language, pattern of speaking, and tone of voice, mirroring your prospects will help build rapport more quicker.

Use Specific Terms

We have talked about how you say things, but it’s also important that you understand the impact of specific words. There are commonly used words that are red flags in a sales pitch. For example, “should” and “would” point people towards “yes” and “no” answers. When you ask questions, you should start with who, what, where, when, why, or how, as this will open the conversation.

Avoid Complicated Language

You may attempt to stimulate the fear of missing out on your potential customer, which may persuade them to buy your product or service in fear of losing out on an opportunity. However, it can make the salesperson feel like they need to mythologise the product more and start using unnecessarily complicated terms. You should know your product inside and out, and while you may feel the temptation to describe a variety of technical features, this can make things too complex, resulting in a subconscious barrier. Keep the language simple to the point where you could explain it to a 5-year-old.

Be Genuine

Rather than thinking about the sales, if you convince yourself that you want to help the other person rather than yourself, this builds trust and stops you from being pushy, resulting in a greater sense of rapport, and will very likely result in more receptive follow-up calls.

Consider Sales Training, Courses, or Programs.

Sales training can provide you with additional techniques to help you learn how to convince people to buy in sales. The goal of these programs is to train or certify individuals on the basics of selling and persuading.

When it comes to the sales process, many people are of the opinion that to entice future prospects, you must be full of bluff and bluster. The reality is that even if you don’t think you are selling, you are still selling something, which is why these tactics can help provide a comprehensive framework, resulting in an amazing sales pitch that helps you build that all-important notion of customer trust with new or current customers.