I’ve already talked about the power of your unconscious mind [Link to Post], and how it influences your behaviour, so today I’d like to take a closer look at how we can become friends with our unconscious mind and use it to help us achieve our goals, rather than blocking them.
Listening to your Unconscious Mind
Have you ever really listened to the things you say to yourself – the words and tone of voice you use when no-one else is listening? What are you saying? Are you speaking words of encouragement, hope and power, or are you constantly criticising yourself and belittling yourself?
Negative self-talk is one of the most common causes of depression. Therapists know that if they listen carefully to what their patients are saying to themselves they will be able to understand 90% of the problems besetting them. The problem is that often patients get caught up in the rehearsal of these negative conversations, emotions and experiences and they can’t let them go. That’s really where I was, when I struggled through my depression – every week when I met with my therapist we would go over the same ground, and I’d feel worse. He would try to help me see the lies I was telling myself, but somehow I missed the road out until I went to the Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) training.
One of things I love about Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) is that it propels you forward. It doesn’t leave you wallowing in your misery but offers you a clear choice.
Take responsibility for your life, or take the consequences!
We can either be ‘At Cause’ in our lives, or we can be ‘At Effect’ – the creators, or the victims of our circumstances. I don’t know about you, but the idea of being a victim doesn’t appeal to me … on the other hand sometimes I’m not all that keen about taking responsibility for things either. And that is where we can call on our unconscious mind to help us.
We can’t turn back the clock and undo the things that we’ve experienced, but we can always choose the direction we’ll take moving forward.
Make Friends With Your Unconscious Mind And Let It Work For You
Once you become aware of your unconscious mind, you will start to hear what it is saying to you. If it is encouraging you to keep moving forward, to stick your neck out and take some risks, and feeding you positive thoughts and emotions then you’re probably in pretty good shape. But maybe things are not quite so rosy and your unconscious mind is tearing you down with negative ideas and feedback. Don’t worry, you’ve taken an important first step – now you know that the part of you which should be your biggest cheerleader is letting you down.
You spend a lot of time listening to your unconscious mind, so you need to feed it positive thoughts, ideas, emotions and images – because whatever you feed it, it will send back to you quietly and without making a fuss. That’s why we need to choose our mental diet at least as carefully as we choose the food we eat. A lot of people take great care about the food they consume, but they fill their minds with random programs from the TV, radio, or magazines.
Your thoughts shape your future just as surely as the food you eat shapes your body – so take time to consider what you are putting into your unconscious mind. They say we become like the five people we spend most time with – that time could be spent with them in person, or via TV, CD or books. Who are your 5 top influencers?
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